I hate to make this long and complicated. I had a relationship with a girl in college, and it extended after graduation. It wore out, went away, just vanished. I returned home to figure out what I was going to do, a man from there, a married man, got me pregnant. My mother told me to hang on to the baby, girls like me never got babies. He told me that in his book, abortion was an abomination of the soul, keep the baby, he would pay for it. Caught between my feelings and my beliefs I did nothing and got bigger and bigger until, boom I had a baby.
I thought it would be best to give the baby up, but he said NO, I had to raise it. And by the way I had to nurse the baby for nine months at least, and be her daily caretaker. HIS child wasn't going to be raised in a day care. My mother agreed with him, especially because he paid the bills. The longer I nursed the better, usually you nurse until it's time to get pregnant again. That way your babies are 18 months apart. I was speechless, what made her think I wanted another baby?
But nature takes it's course, your mother delivers you to a man, backs him up on everything, makes sure you put on weight for him, you are prepped for him, and you get pregnant again. 18 months, that's the best spread for babies. He, for his part, comes over for dinner because my mother cooks for him. He has one toddler and a pregnant girlfriend who would prefer not to be his girlfriend, and he spills the beans and tells his wife about us.
The divorce was as expected, she got everything, and he comes to live with us. He wants to be around his babies. He says, well since we are living like this, we might as well get married. His wife took us getting married badly and complained and stood with the longest face ever as we exchanged vows. That was not her plan, he was supposed to dump me, not marry me. Now I had the kids and she had nothing, nada, kept fallow, a field not planted. What about her?
Well, because I was raised to be nice and everything to the exwife because I liked her, I told him if he wanted to get her pregnant, then go for it. Afterwards, she was his 'wife' forever anyway. Now we have a blended family, she has her two and I have my two and we are 'best friends forever'.
