As a college student I spent a semester abroad in Rome. My assigned roommate from Canada was an assertive homosexual. I was unable to defend against his advances and submitted to a homosexual relationship. I had no knowledge of tops or bottoms, of doms or submissive, of cock suckers or mother fuckers. I was not the Alpha, far from it. I went home changed forever, my privates no longer private, my asshole his playhole. Being fucked was more demeaning than being a cocksucker.
It's been a long time since Rome. I am now in my forties, much more knowledgeable, more accepting of being a cocksucker. Anal giving, anal receiving. Some of us are built to be mother fuckers, some of us are built to take it.